Change Beliefs Find Love!
If we want to find love, we need to change our beliefs about love, because changing our mindset means changing our love life.
Review on beliefs:
Beliefs are just thoughts.
Thoughts create feelings.
Changing our feelings requires changing our thoughts.
AJ TMI #JustTheTip True Story
A few days ago, I was at a dusty, old used book store and there’s this guy in the section near me supposedly looking at a book. I write “supposedly” because I could tell he wasn’t really looking at it and I’d passed him on the street a block away.
It could’ve been coincidence that he was going to the same book store. Or maybe he creepy stalker-ed me. Whatever, he seemed harmless.
He looks over a few times—don’t underestimate peripheral vision—and I’m deciding if I feel like chatting. I was on my way back to a speaking summit where I was volunteering—which are great places to meet people: summits and volunteering—and didn’t have much time.
Finally, he asked me, “So what books are you interested in?”
We chatted for a short while and then I left.
But the point is, he took the chance to speak up. He could’ve believed, “I’ll likely get rejected.” Not because I’m awesome, though I so am!! But because that’s what goes through most men’s head before approaching a woman, any woman.
Instead, he chose a different belief. Or maybe he chose that one and a “Fuck it, I’ll try anyway” belief.
Change Beliefs Find Love How To’s
- Evaluate the actions that you take—or don’t take—in your life, and make a list of the beliefs that suck. For example: If your BFF said the shit that you think about yourself to you in front of a loved one, that loved one would bitch slap that “friend.”
- Find the real belief behind the false statement. Ask yourself, “What’s the real belief?” until you get a burst of insight. Maybe you already know what it is.
- Ask yourself, “Is this belief fact or fiction?” If you’re defensive about it, it’s likely fiction.
- Make up a better belief. Seriously.
- Don’t talk shit to yourself anymore.
Change Beliefs Find Love Takeaways
- Beliefs are simply thoughts that result in feelings—positive or negative.
- Thoughts can be changed. Empowering thoughts lead to less self-sabotage and more empowering actions.
xo AJ
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