Simp: Nice Guy Syndrome
In No More Mr Nice Guy, Dr. Robert Glover describes what Nice Guy Syndrome is and where it comes from; how being “too nice” is holding guys back from having the life, love and great sex they want; and provides exercises to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome.
For the context of this post and video, I’m not talking about a kind, good man with integrity. I’m talking about what Dr. Glover says is a man who acts nice always has a hidden, selfish angle involved. And yes, “simp” is derogatory, I agree. It’s sad that’s a term being searched.
Nice Guy Syndrome Story
After reading the book and speaking with numerous women, they told me how many “nice guys” many of them have gone out with.
Of all the women I spoke with, guess what happened in those relationships?
After months, or years, of being frustrated from loss of trust in guys with Nice Guy Syndrome (which, by it’s very nature creates loss of trust, watch the video to find out why), respect for these well-meaning guys evaporated and the women ended up breaking up with those men.
Nice Guy Syndrome is a Lose-Lose
A crowd’s popular opinion can sway a man who doesn’t have his own opinion. Women are naturally turned off by a man without backbone. Women can sway a guy who always agrees with them. But…
If a man can’t stand up to a woman, he can’t stand up for a woman.
Dr. Glover
Women unconsciously look for backbone, because if a guy doesn’t have a backbone, a woman won’t feel safe with him.
Women’s primary need is to feel safe physically, and emotionally.
Nice Guys and “Simps” don’t want to offend.
Or rock the boat.
Or draw attention to differences (in opinion, taste, preference, etc.) in case one of those differences is a deal-breaker for the girl.
Nice guys are simp-ly too “nice.”
Being a Nice Guy/Simp is sure to get you in the friend zone, or worse, get you a bully girlfriend who treats you poorly.
Break free, man, break free and be a man, a good man not a fake “nice guy” or simp.
First thought…some truth to it.
2nd thought…There’s a lot of BS in this. A lot of blame on the guy but none on the woman.
Ie guy plans date, takes the lead etc etc. All the woman can do is B&C, doesn’t like the restaurant etc etc.
For myself, I’m looking for the intimacy, however I’m not looking to get a woman in bed. I’m looking for onewoman that will stick it out till death , not just until she feels off.
As for the “not good enough” feelings, that comes from feedback from women who leave if you do offend them, or don’t illicit the feeling of “attraction”, or not trying to seduce them, or just being normal.
There are many men out there that have nothing wrong with them. They are truly nice men. It’s the women that have the problem because they can’t deal with a nice man.
I know for me as well it’s confidence with dealing with women. Been bailed on too many times. It could be I have issues but it could also be the women I try to meet have more issues.
It’s a risk to express your feelings/wants/desires. A really quick way to find out if the woman is mature.